22 Oct The Tyranny, of ‘If Only’…
“Angie Bell!!, Angie Bell!”, I heard a woman shout at me as I left the grocery store a couple of weeks ago. Angie Bell is my maiden name, so it took me a minute to respond. I turned to discover a woman who was a...
09 May Meet Mr. D
2013 marks my 7th year of working in China and I just returned from a 3-week trip to Beijing. The highlight for me was seeing quite a few of my old students from years gone by and seeing how they are doing. Mr. D approached me...
09 Mar Feeling Intense? Maybe You’re Thinking in Black and White
Last week in the office, I had a minimum of 5 clients say to me, “That’s just how I am, for me it’s black or white”. I get it! People who are good at setting expectations and pushing themselves usually have some black and white...
14 Feb You are NOT who your Mother thinks you are. . .
Here is what you need to know: You are not who your mother thinks you are. Yep, that’s right, even if it’s something good. You are soooooooooooo much more than what she sees when she experiences you. The truth is that sometime long ago, you expressed yourself...
25 Jan It’s Not My Fault: The Difference Between Helping With Problems, and Owning Them.
If you’re a sensitive person like I am, you can sense when someone else is hurting. I know when my assistant in China is overwhelmed, I can tell when a longstanding client is having marriage trouble, and sometimes I actually feel anxious just before other...
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