04 Oct Disappointment Knocks, Authenticity Opens
Wow, have you ever experienced a moment where life seemed to grab you by the collar, shake you awake and say “LOOK AT ME, HERE I AM!”
For most of us those moments are either (a) connected with an awe inspiring moment in nature (think rainbow, dolphins, sunset) or (b) how you felt when your kids were born. If you haven’t experienced either of those, think of holding a puppy or running around when you were a kid (think freedom and connection!).
One of the best things about being a kid was the BIG box of crayola crayons (oh yeah, with the sharpener!). Somehow though, even though we have the big box (and trust me, you do!), we wind up picking 3 colours and using them again and again (all the while wondering why that rainbow just doesn’t look right).
When we experience a stretching, that is an experience which takes us beyond our current sense of reality, and the life that we have created, it has an immediate impact on us.
The more that we expand, the faster, the bigger and the more painful the moment is when we fully accept that we’ve been living a life below our potential.
The more that we expand, the faster, the bigger and the more painful the moment is when we fully accept that we’ve been living a life below our potential. It’s the “Oh SHIT” moment. When we touch a hot stove, our pain demands that we respond and change course. It’s the same with life. Sooner or later, you’re going to see a picture created with the full box of crayons, and it’s going to remind you that you’ve only been using the red, nude and the green one.
Most people avoid feeling disappointment and shame. That is a very bad idea.
Not only are you only coloring with 3 crayons, but you also try to convince yourself and the world that this is all that there is. You literally create and grow the “Nude, red and green picture club” which will eventually create the self reinforcing reality that nude, red and green is fabulous. You will spread stories about the people will the full box of crayons to convince yourself that either (a) they took your crayons away, or (b) you don’t have the full box of crayons or (c) 3 crayons is better than 120 (yes, that’s how many are in the big box).
You’ve been programmed for fulfillment and the emotion of disappointment is your internal compass point which says “pause, and do something different
The first step towards the kodachrome life is looking at the full box, and having the courage to let yourself want more than 3 crayons. You’ve been programmed for fulfillment and the emotion of disappointment is your internal compass point which says “pause, and do something different”.
Most people feel disappointed, and then their minds try to take care of it for them (again, bad idea). Thinking when you are disappointed is dangerous. Feel it first, then think. Your mind will usually tell you either that (a) it’s all your fault, or (b) it’s all their fault) or (c) it’s not that bad, or (d), the world is ending. All of which are half truths, and when taken as full truths, will block and stunt your healing.
Email me firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll send you a free disappointment worksheet. Allow it to open you up, reflect on your answers, be curious about what you find, and the unanswered questions that it brings up. Go deeper, to go further, with presence and with peace.